Midlife Crisis or Midlife Reassessment?
Like so many popular 20th century concepts, the image of a man in an existential crisis at age 50 who trades in his long-time wife and car for newer models is on the wane – and may never have been correct. Psychoanalyst Elliott Jaques coined the term in 1965 to describe his midlife client’s sudden change in lifestyle and productivity, but the breakthrough “Midlife Development in the U.S. (MIDUS)” studies conducted over three decades beginning in 1995, proved otherwise. Only an estimated 10% of adults actually experienced a midlife crisis while the majority considered it a period of great satisfaction, redefining it as a time of deepened connections and continuity, peak earning power, career advancement, and greater emotional intelligence. In fact, asserts study author Margie Lachman, PhD, adults reach the apex of their competence and expertise in middle age, with time to chart a healthy course for the future.
Midlife Challenges and Stressors
Still, midlife does pose its share of challenges in terms of concurrently balancing as many as eight roles, including spouse, parent, grandparent, adult child, sibling, friend, co-worker, and caregiver. Partially a result of an ongoing cultural shift encouraging openness around mental health, today’s midlife adults are more frequently diagnosed and seek help with issues such as depression and anxiety – from 31% in 2019 to 45% in 2023 among ages 35 to 44; and from 26% to 36% among ages 45 to 64, as reported in the American Psychological Association’s annual “Stress in America” survey.
Work is the primary stressor for many midlife patients of concierge psychologist Dr. Rebecca Osei. “Their self-worth is intertwined with career achievement,” she says. “If they haven’t yet reached the goals they set for themselves, there can be issues with depression and how to move forward from this point.”
High achievers face their own set of problems, according to psychiatrist Brook Choulet, MD, who works with CEOs and elite athletes contending with mental health concerns despite the outward appearance of great success. “I often start by asking how they would feel if I sent them on a two-week vacation right now,” she says. “Their answer can help reveal whether they’re headed toward burnout (removing the stress factor of work improves their mood) or struggling with clinical depression or an anxiety disorder.”
Strategies for High Achievers to Overcome Stress and Anxiety
Top performers are driven to constantly keep chasing the next goal, rather than taking the time to appreciate their achievements, says Choulet. “Many also have perfectionist tendencies, leading to stress and fear of failure if everything is not done flawlessly.” She helps them overcome their challenges with strategies that include:
- Establishing good boundaries between personal and professional life.
- Adopting a growth mindset focused on progress rather than perfection.
- Developing stress management and self-care techniques. “Prioritize your own mental health in order to lead effectively.”
- Taking a pulse on what brings you joy. “This is particularly important as you near retirement and can’t imagine life without work. Lean into your network of friends and family and learn how to step away and enjoy what you really love,” says Choulet.

Plant-based eating holds one of the most important keys to slowing biological aging, emphasizes Dr. Greger. Borne out in large studies from the National Institutes of Health/AARP and Harvard, replacing just 3% of daily calories from animal protein with plant protein was associated with a 10% decrease in risk of overall mortality. It may also help prevent Alzheimer’s dementia, an incurable disease. “There is a growing consensus that what is good for our hearts is also good for our heads, and high levels of blood cholesterol are recognized to be a major risk factor for Alzheimer’s. Switching to a healthy, whole foods diet lower in animal fats, eggs and dairy can help prevent arteries in the brain from becoming clogged with atherosclerotic plaque, which is thought to play a role in Alzheimer’s,” he explains. “It may even trump genetics, as seen in Nigeria, where the plant-predominant diet may be the reason for very low rates of Alzheimer’s disease among a population with some of the world’s highest rates of the Alzheimer’s gene. Genes may load the gun, but lifestyle pulls the trigger.” In studies of older adults, the benefits of a diet rich in dark green, leafy vegetables continues to emerge, associated with improvements in the brain’s processing speed and working memory, muscle mass and strength, and potentially helping prevent age-related macular degeneration.
Activate autophagy, the body’s cellular recycling system, with regular aerobic exercise of moderate intensity, and daily consumption of spermidine, a compound found in foods including: beans, tempeh (made from fermented soybeans), white button mushrooms, mangoes, edamame, green peas, lentil soup, and in its most concentrated form in wheat germ. Also given the green light by Dr. Greger is coffee, for its abundance of polyphenol chlorogenic acid, an antioxidant thought to have a protective effect that is contained in all types of the beverage (decaffeinated, instant, and especially when brewed with a paper filter).
Avoid French fries and chips, urges Dr. Greger, as the toxin acrylamide formed during the frying process may cause inflammation and inhibit autophagy; air fry potatoes instead. Also, put down the salt shaker and opt for salt-free seasonings or substitutes. “Cutting back on sodium appears to effectively make people more than a decade younger in terms of risk of premature death,” he says.
Minimize fish. Long viewed as a healthy choice, fish have become so contaminated with heavy metals, pesticides and other forever chemicals that despite their omega-3 fatty acids, there’s been a failure to consistently observe its beneficial effects, according to Dr. Greger.
Prevent bone fractures by focusing on strength and balance training. “The majority of age-related risk of bone fractures (85%) is due to falling, not osteoporosis, so addressing muscle loss may be more effective than the current focus on increasing bone mineral density with drugs,” says Dr. Greger. He cites multiple randomized trials showing a combination of resistance exercise to improve lower limb muscle strength and balance training can cut fracture risk nearly in half. And although boosting protein intake has been touted by others, Dr. Greger cautions: “If you put together all the randomized, controlled trials of adding extra protein to the diets of older men and women, you find no evidence that it increases muscle mass or strength, even in those with sarcopenia (excessive age-related muscle loss).”